Shhhh! You know who you are! Portraits taken over the last two years of an annual private event. The party was begun by an extended network of friends, brought together people from a variety of social backgrounds and has been ongoing for over 15 years. The ‘friendship’ culture is maintained – new guests have to be invited – and the location is carefully guarded. The festive atmosphere allows the relaxation of societal norms. Typically, partygoers exhibit a playful exuberance that subverts the constraints of mainstream identity politics.