“Wham! The pink feed bucket went flying through the air and landed at Skye’s feet with a resounding thud. Nudging it away from his own food Skye looked up and saw Teddy staring at him intently; this was becoming a morning routine that Skye was not at all sure he liked. “What’s up this time Teddy?” Skye asked, trying hard to be patient. “This food doesn’t taste right Skye” the young pony responded, “and Disa is eating her hay in MY spot, and what’s more my tummy hurts, and…. well, things just don’t feel right today!” He finished with a loud snort. ”
After losing his best friend nothing feels right for Teddy, or for any of the other horses who loved Cutie so much. How can they hold on to him now he is no longer with them?
As science tells us that attachment is our preeminent need as human beings, facing separation from our attachments presents the preeminent threat and, many experts believe, underlies most of the challenges facing our children today. This gentle story explores a six stage model of attachment, firmly grounded in attachment theory and developmental science. As the horses find varying and ever more secure ways to ‘hold on’ to their dear friend, parents and counsellors can help children who have also experienced or face separation to both feel close to those they are missing, and to process the feelings of loss.